For Singles

Tina comments on:
Dating someone with the same faith

I emphathise hugely with people who are past their mid thirties and would like to find a spouse, someone to share their life with, maybe have a family with, but who just have not met anyone suitable. What is suitable? Some say that having similar backgrounds is important? Others say financial compatibility? A myriad of different compatibility criteria can be built. This is useful and I do in fact provide tools to help people to think about these things. However what about dating someone with the same faith? How important is this? Maybe you think you don’t have a faith? Actually everyone has a faith of some kind which is lived out in their personal values. Some people are less aware of what their core values are, their ‘raison d’être’. The danger is by looking at surface compatibility only and not exploring deeper values we sometimes get distracted from finding the relationships that are best for us.

Getting in an unsuitable relationship can challenge your beliefs and your underlying faith and values. Is this good or bad? You will never find a carbon copy of you so some conflict is to be expected. Working out how much difference works for you personally and how much difference is unhealthily is a useful process which you can start whether you are already dating or looking.

It’s an important area to address and be clear about. Many specialist on-line dating sites and events exist, but not all men or women find these instantaneous solutions. Could this be because of the deeper need to truly connect with someone who can understand your faith and values and work in partnership with you on them? Step number one, explore and understand them yourself!

My programme helps singles move forward towards finding a partner and includes steps which help connect people with their core values and life purpose along the way.